by Sarah Bartlett
With a new Moon in Virgo, it’s time to get practical about love. Throw out any emotional clutter, give up bad thoughts, and start to put your romantic house in order. With mischievous Mercury restoring good communication, wit and wonderful encounters, this is a week to see improvements all round. We may not be sure where we’re heading, or why, but love and passion will be discovered in the very places and through the very experiences we never expected.
How can we create a sense of oneness with life? How do we engage in it, so that all those fears, complaints, worries and woes dissolve? Sometimes of course it just ‘happens’. We arrive at this place by chance or fall in love and all that went before is swept aside for the numbing, yet releasing feeling of desire. John Donne wrote, “Change is the nursery of musicke, joy, life, and eternity”. And I believe this week, that’s the kind of playground you want to be in. A changing, romantic, at-oneness, where there’s no-one to blame you for their life, unhappiness or otherwise. If single, you will experience those moments again, and if attached, go light your partner’s fire and rekindle the passion. You will be at one, not only with another, but with yourself and life too.
There’s really nothing like strking while the proverbial iron is not only hot, but steaming. And that’s about committing yourself to a quest. A new one. A current, problematic one, (perhaps turning it round to try to make it work) or one that will bring you that real engagement with love and life like you’ve never felt before. Yet with bossy Mars in your sign right now, it’s hardly surprising that the messy depths of sexual desire, the abyss of emotional honesty and the manipulative actions of power-trippers are bugging you. And that little thing called love is calling you on to adventure forth, to navigate the chilly waters of feeling for the warmer ones of piratical capers. Don’t rock the love boat. Jump on it, take the helm and honour your quest.
Why can’t the world be bright and luminious? And why can’t everyone just love one another? And what does it matter if X is too intense and Y too charming? In fact you’re feeling a tad rebellious and thats that. You want to escape, to where, you’re not sure. But it does all feel as if that wondrous ideal of a perfect lifestyle, has well and truly deserted you. But planetary cycles move mysteriously. They interweave with other cycles, eternally reflecting highs and lows in the cosmos. And this week, suddenly thngs are looking up again. People and partners generally seem less judgemental and more loving. The change you seek is on its way, and the freedom you need is accepted, rather than despised.
Well it’s just one of those weeks. People aren’t on your wavelength, or you get stuck in a traffic jam and wish if only you’d gone down a different route. And then there are partners or loved ones. Hostility rules, defensiveness seeps into every conversation: ‘ What do you mean? I don’t think you know what I’m talking about?’ and so on. You get the drift. And frankly, other people generally seeem downright selfish. A few weeks back, you might remember, I said something about the animated ‘new you’ returning? Well, funnily enough through all the melodrama, it finally will.
Sometimes you wonder if you’re really cut out to be the global lover of life. What about problems, and worries and things that go bump in the night? And didn’t your partner or admirer say ‘ I can take it or leave it,’ about something you felt was important to you the other day? So what does that say about you? Are you important? And what will people think of you? Luckily, however, this week you restore a realistic perspective and see that maybe, just after all, this fear of loving is generated from within you, rather than without. Yes, intimacy is a messy and often an erratic experience, but it’s going to get better.
I want you to promise me this week, no shoulds and shouldn’ts and oughts and ‘Oh,I mustn’t step over the line.’ Nor must you judge yourself or your partner, if attached. Instead think of the present, not as a negative place to control and beat into some kind of conformist shape, but an adventure. Love adventure, let adventure love you back, and you can continue through the autumn mists with a smile on your face. Embrace the unexpected rather than retreat from it or try to control it. You never know what might happen on the way to love’s open door.
We start friendships with handshakes, air-kissing, e-mails and chit-chat. We sense an affinity with someone. They like the same things as us, have the same view of life, politics or comedy. Or they may be very different, make us think more deeply or from a new perspective. And it’s often with those who are apparently so unlike ourselves that we become more than just friendly toward. We fall in love. This week, there will be dissidents and nomadic types clamouring for your very attention. And it’s all going to be fun and romantic again if you engage in the unusual or eccentric, rather than turn your face away. So your catchphrase is, ‘Vive la difference’.
Yes, it’s finally dawning on you. You’re ready to rebel and kick against all that stuff about obligations, and duties and ‘this is how it is.’ And that means if attached, your partner does seem to have developed an iron fist rather than a velvet glove. If single, admirers out there are either too demanding, dull or full of so many complexes, that even Freud wouldn’t want then on his couch. The good news however is, that you begin to find a way to worm yourself out of that deep hole of boredom. Stifled, trampled on or simply ignored, you suddenly realise that there’s ‘me time’ as well as ‘everyone else’ time. Get in time with your own sensual rhythms this week.
They say you’re too headstrong. By ‘they’, I mean members of the opposite sex. They love you as a pal, or might suggest even a fling, as they wonder if you’ve set off down the path of clandestine relationships before. But what kind of love do you truly thrive on? Simply to be loved for being you, simply to be loved for your impetuous ways and because you’re a brilliant crusader, perhaps? And if you’re as interested in who Jack the Ripper really was, as you are in the way your partner’s car keeps breaking down, well, why not? It doesn’t mean you adore Jack more than your partner, does it? Whether single or attached, time to respect your own authonomy.
If single, you may be thinking, ‘well, of course I’m attracting moths to a flame, but why are they always the wrong types that I find so boring or unavailable? What’s wrong with me?’ Nothing, except attitude. You have a list (imaginery or literally) of what you want in a lover and what you don’t. Unconsciously we often chose those who are not available. Unavailability is highly desirable, it means we have a rival or a challenge, often continuing our earlier childhood battles with life. The tried and trusted, however unpleasant is often ironically, a safe bet. Yet over the next few weeks, the fear of merger will seem less scary; the desire to get on with life and love is more enticing. But whether single or attached, isn’t it nice to be a human being rather than trying to be a perfect being?
Now, no Aquarius I’ve ever met wants an ordinary love life. Most seem to thrive on personal space, maybe even independent living with no strings, and of course, unconditional love. The problem is that the value the collective places on ‘conditions’ doesn’t gel very well with the ideals you have right now. Such as, if you speak to someone of the opposite sex, then it’s a sign of contempt for the one you’re with. If you go on holiday alone, it’s a sign you’re having an affair. Thus, any terms of physical or emotional engagement seem to be set in stone. We ‘must’ be sexually faithful (probably a positive thing for the purpose of human evolution, but there’s always another side to the argument), and we now must also be emotionally and mentally faithful. Show you can be this if you truly believe in it, but only if it truly matters to you.
“Love is like musk, it attracts attention”, wrote the medieval poet, Rumi. And this week, the slinky, sultry, enigmatic you is as volatile as musk itself. You are love, and you feel it, and others sense it and want you close. But, there’s something stopping you. A fear of going in too soon, or too near. Of being wrapped in a cacoon where all is one, perhaps almost merging in some mystical union for a while, but then having to come out of it again. And that means having to face reality So you play cool, say to yourself, it’s safer to live in limbo, to deny passion and run scared; to be neither satisfied nor desperate for more. But this week, I want you to fill yourself with yourself, fill yourself up with your feelings and your joy, sorrow, memories and all that you have been, rather than pretend you don’t exist. Why? Because existence attracts attention.