by Sarah Bartlett
With the sun in Libra, this week is not only going to be a time for love all around, but one of fresh ideas, creative thinking and a burst of romantic repairs and renewal.
We think we can avoid love’s passions, live a simple life, be civilised and programme our lives like a computer, but it’s not possible. We are human after all. We need to indulge, get steamy, think survival, warmth, love, sex and live for the moment rather than dwell on the past. This is a week to fire on all cylinders and to get fired up by love’s mysterious ways.
This week, you start to think clearly again about what it is you truly want or lack. For example, some of us lack self-esteem so we want self-confidence or someone to boost our ego. But the qualities you lack are simply to find a balance between that go-getting, challenging rampant way of loving life and a more practical, realistic perception. What you ‘think ‘you want, is someone to clear up of your emotional or bathroom mess. What you ‘really’ want is to to be able to do so yourself. Time to clean up your bathroom, and also your feelings.
Self-esteem is a very desirable quality these days, so is social acceptance. And it’s not that you’re hiding behind the constructs of fashion to cast yourself in some ineffable, untouchable glow. No, more that you’re exuding this quality yourself. And if we’re going to be honest, self-esteem is the last of your worries and social acceptance is the first. But why worry what others think, when if you love yourself, universal love will be all around you too? Time to step out in style, and either meet the partner of your dreams or dance with a loved one and glow in your mutual warmth.
This week, single or attached, people will just be downright awkward for the sake of it. With Saturn’s influence, conventional niceties and petty laws win over wild idealism. But just for one moment think of what you secretly desire. Isn’t it to be a bit wild and free? Isn’t it to be more romantic, unaffected by traditional values? Don’t deny a little passion in your life, for in the months to come, the planets will be bringing you the chance to discover there’s a fire within, as well as without.
There are good manners and there is etiquette. We court the beloved in a style which favours the rules of engagement of our particular culture, and rarely do we dare step outside the line. You know, you’re not supposed to text someone until they’ve texted you. You’re not allowed to assume this is IT; you must keep the love of your life on their toes. But this week, it seems the game is about to be played your way. At last, love moves according to your rules, and ones which are probably as whacky and as unconventional as well, your lover marrying you at the South Pole.
With lovely romantic flurries of planetary activity, you can begin to handle your new admirer or current partner with total devotion and pure genius. In fact, they will like your approach. And with a very open mind you will also like their responses. Now most of us ‘react’ to other people’s behaviour rather than ‘respond’. Reaction is emotionally driven from our inbuilt defence mechanisms. Response is to reflect, to take an attitude with objectivity, rather than personally. So your responses this week will be both tender, yet observant, sexy yet compassionate, hilarious yet with feeling. It’s called being alive.
Down to earth though you are, remember, we cannot have love without hate, nor yin without yang. There are part of the same package. Love itself is full of oxymorons, like unstoppable objects meeting immovable ones. This week, you will see that for all your belief in formality and hierarchies and doing things by the book, there is something deeply mysterious about the universe and love. What’s more, you realise that you are only beholden to you. This kind of commitment to self-understanding means also you can truly love from your heart. And what is that, if not the truest love of all? The only formality worth considering, is being the best of yourself.
Now in mythic astrology, Jupiter, aka Zeus, was dogmatic and self-opinionated, he’d fly around his heavenly kingdom wooing nymphs, turning himself into a shower of gold when he felt like it and generally getting on everyone’s nerves. But while this planet of ferocious idealism and hilarious antics continues to play in fickle Gemini, you’re beginning to feel that you’re still not quite getting your life right and it’s time to move on. You’ve met people, or seen things over the past year which have not only changed your perception of the world, but also of yourself. This week, you can begin to love from your soul. The shower of gold is coming your way.
Shakespeare wrote, ‘in time we hate that which we often fear,” but we can also love it too. Love and hate are not mutually exclusive, they are part of the same polarity. And I’ve met many water signs who quite openly admit to both hating and loving someone at the same time. So why are these feelings so powerful at the moment? What is it about this exaggerated sense of desire, anger, lack or ‘fear’ that is getting to you?Frankly, you’re ready for a challenge, a new romantic adventure. Soon, you can temper restless longings with instant sensual rewards of the sexiest kind.
If single, maybe you fear ever falling in love again. It’s dangerous, you can get hurt. If attached, you begin to hate your partner more than love them. Why don’t they know how you feel? Why don’t they intuitively sense when you’re down or need to be held? You’ll be glad to hear, this week, it’s all about chucking out the old, making a fresh start, anything other than being stuck in the pit with the bad feelings or the pain. Gradually you are waking up to the fact that you’re worth more than feeling inadequate or unwanted or rejected or lonely. You have compassion and passion in bucket-loads, and it’s time to ring the changes. So instead of weeping for what has been and cannot be ever again, it’s time to laugh both at the world, and at yourself.
OK, your personal world seems to be a rather unloving place. But I want you to think of this. When we seriously start to look at who we are and what we want, when we seriously have to face our fears, our needs, our joys, it’s then we can look at both the dark of ourselves and more importantly the light. And what will be positive and true and focusssed and life-changing in the coming months is you. Because remember that litlte word change? Time to start expressing those desires to yourself – literally. In the mirror, speak to yourself, aloud, and then share those words with the one you love, if attached. You will be surprised what a dynamic and enriching love life you are about to experience. Start loving what you once feared; yourself.
A lover, partner or even vague romance is not only bringing you down to earth, but also opening your eyes to how mysteriously love moves. And your innate suspicion brings you a range of fantasies from ‘why did x speak to Y and not me, they must be up to something’ to ‘they’re looking at my partner in a way that means trouble’. But you have little choice but to air your feelings and generate a few home truths. And those are ones that mean you begin to see how to love someone without trying to control every move they make. What do you fear so much? Is it perhaps that deep down inside you feel really vulnerable in the face of love? Step outside the ring of fire, and feel the centre of your soul.
Of course, love is never easy. You’ve been hurt, you know what it is to lose someone, and yet there’s always a feeling in the back of your mind that you must get on with life and live it to the full. And if romantic encounters are proving complicated, then in a way, that merely adds to the spice and joy of being able to handle the cirumstances with spirit and initiative. This week, with a renewed sense of self-esteem, you decide to break the ice, take a deep breath and tell that someone special what you really want and need in a relationship. Wants and needs are often very different, make sure they’re not incompatible and you can start to truly live that dream.