Love Horoscope by Sarah Bartlett
As sober Saturn moves out of Libra at last to enter erotic Scorpio, and fiery Mars moves into impulsive Sagittarius, transformative love competes with our deepest memories of past loves, whether lost or some regretted. Waves of desire flood our senses, or we wonder if we will ever be loved again. This second week of October, we all discover we can be both passionate about ourselves and yet also be filled with compassion for others.
So, you’ve decided to ‘wait until something happens’ where your love life is concerned? You’re not going to rock the boat, nor insist on changes, or try to pin someone down to this or that. You’re happy to sit it out and let things evolve at their own pace. But it’s time to think carefully what is really important to you and what isn’t. And the dreadful thought arises that you have to make a decision and stick to it. Could it be that making any decision in relationships involve emotional investment, and possible risk? The risk is one thing, bring it on, you say, but committing yourself to a promise, a gift, a meeting, is another. Time to indulge in a risky commitment and see how breathtakingly liberating it can be.
A chance encounter could turn into an unusual affair if you’re single, or a radical change of viewpoint if you’re attached. Do you want stability or the unpredictable, or maybe you want both? Can you somehow animate your relationship to encompass both the security you cherish, and the excitment you desire right now? You’re probably thinking I’m posing too many questions, but the longer you avoid this kind of self-analysis, the harder it will be to admit to yourself that you need just as much adventure in your love life as a Sagittarius. Last question. Does it feel as if you are finally in tune with your senses, or could it also be that someone is bringing you to them at last?
With Mars challenging your relationships, you may wonder why your lover or partner seems so self-absorbed and egotistical, and you may well wish you could just hide under the duvet when confrontations arise. This also brings up feelings towards your partner of ‘am I giving too much of myself?’ ‘how could you do this to ME?’, or ‘do you really deserve me?” Now these are all responses generated by an unconscious fear that you will be rejected, or perhaps you’re not good enough to be loved. But very soon, you’ll learn that love isn’t about ‘who’s good enough,’ it’s more about who’s willing to love without conditions.
Venus, known as Aphrodite in ancient Greece, may be the planet of pleasure, beauty and romance, but remember that the goddess was utterly vain. She was also capable of causing great pain, not through deliberate intention, but just by virtue of being who she was. Now, I’m not saying for one minute your partner, or you, are doing an ‘Aphrodite’, just reminding you that we often feel hurt, unwanted, neglected or abandoned because of who we are. So show your partner that you’re alive and very much kicking. Love with passion, live with intention. If single, look beyond the ordinary. Move out of your normal critical distance, safe space or romantic playground and embrace the different. It will change your life for the better.
Whether mistakes made, choices regretted or journeys led astray, we all have baggage. And we all try to dump it, fearful that it’s lingering presence in our hallways means we can’t move forward. But it’s not so much obliterating what we had, whether won, lost or otherwise, it’s the attachment to the baggage which causes most trouble. This week, you learn to step over the bags in the hall and move out into the big wide world.
This week’s planetary activity will remind you to go with the flow. It is the renaissance of a new romantic and less desperate you, a shimmering chance to be only true to yourself. But what about your security, and sense of being loved for who you are? With Venus’s influence, it might seem that the fulfillment you seek is a long way off, however confident you feel about your love life. But in the weeks to come, you will find the journey gets easier, and your heart is on the right track for success.
We all like to believe in miracles. For example, that love lost will be found; or if single, Mr or Miss Right will come bursting through the door when least expected. These are indeed the kind of miracles of love we hope for. ‘Miracle’ is rooted in ancient words meaning both ‘to smile’ and as ‘an object of wonder’. So this month, smile at yourself in the mirror and wonder at yourself. Admire who you are, what you’re doing, what you’ve achieved, and why you are who you are. Repeat aloud that you deserve love, just by virtue of being on this planet earth. Then the miracle will happen.
Don’t let doubts and fears, those emotional mosquitos of life, suck your blood. Saturn may force you to rethink what love really means to you, but from now on you will also have more passion for everything that matters to you. Romantic missions become less impossible and suddenly the world seems a better place. If you’re single, admirers fight for your attention, and you feel stronger emotionally than you were a few months ago, resilient to others opinions, scorn or envy. This week’s cosmic line-up reminds you that rather than become a victim of so-called fate, you have a chance to take control of your life and make some choices.
With Mars in your own sign, there will inevitably be conflicts of interest this week, such as partners and verbal battles or domestic assumptions taken too far. And it’s up to you to look in the mirror and smile at yourself. This time, knowing that the fire within is burning, and that your partner or new admirer will just have to respect your personal goals and determination to succeed. The latter being the way you can turn love into the perfect romantic dish of the day. Forget the oven, it’s your heat which will be the catalyst for revitalised passion.
There does seem to be extremes of feeling and action working through you right now. As if one day, you see life as a flat millpond, and others when you yearn for passion. This is normal, this is the ‘bete-noir’ if you like, of being a Capricorn. And others may not know this about you. They don’t realise that sometimes you talk to the lonely side of yourself, and sometimes that part doesn’t hear too well, and sometimes the down-to-earth sensible bull that you’re supposed to be be is actually as vulnerable about love as the rest of us. With the changing energy of the cosmos this week, the mask must be removed and the true lover of life shine out. Then, you will have your way.
Instead of assuming that partnership is a one-way ticket to eternal happiness, you have seen the light. The light being that there have to be dark moments to experience or recognise the light ones; that there has to be exchange and interaction to notice the loneliness, and there has to be emotions, thoughts and feelings and bits and bobs that are mysterious and distinctly spooky, so that you can personally evolve. This week your moods will irritate you, others will be less ideal than you hoped, but yet, through the glass darkly you see how romance can grow, take root, or become the angel of your dreams in the months to come.
In ancient Greece there was a love called ‘agape’, which says, ‘I love you, by freeing you’. It’s not possessive, controlling nor manipulative. (Nor is it condoning ‘open marriage’). And this week, the freedom ticket is waiting to be taken. Not to an idealised happy-ever-after ending, (because we know that just doesn’t exist) but one where you can give of yourself truly and get back what you truly long for. So ask yourself, do you want to change things in your relationship, and if so why? Remember, repressing feelings like envy, guilt, anger and disdain, mean we often repress feelings of joy and desire too. Isn’t it better to acknowledge them all, and live a little?