by Sarah Bartlett
We’re in the middle of many planetary cycles, some ending, some beginning. We’re all ready for action, or we give up this and that, and promise more to others than maybe we can live up to and then regret we ever did.
Yet love once fallen by the wayside, rises again to make its presence known. This is a turning point in the year, when the planets will subtly show you how to separate illusion from truth, and see beyond the superficial to a more profound sense of mutual empathy and affinity with the one you love, or with someone new.
If attached, you see how to start anew, perhaps make some smaller changes to your lifestyle. But this week, you may have a very uncompromising partner on your hands. And they may say, ‘I don’t understand you, why now?’. OR, ‘everything’s just fine as it is, don’t rock the boat.’ And if single, you begin to realise that the independence you value highly will overcome those negative feelings about how you’re just not ready or ‘good enough’ to start again. With a sense of self-acceptance and brand new intiative for other ventures, love for someone else may not be an easy thing to feel, but it’s coming your way.
Do you ever feel alone when you’re with others? And do you often feel trapped or smothered by too much love, even though you search for it constantly? This week, you’re in the mood to take a risk about being yourself. Maybe take that real journey somewhere impulsive and cultural, but also take a metaphorical journey in your head and you’ll discover what you truly need in love as well as what you want. Communicate your thoughts, transmit your desires and if attached, your partner will begin to realise that for all your sweet-as-pie behaviour, you also have strength and self-confidence in bucketloads. If single, a bright and breezy admirer starts getting more interested, and you wonder if you should take it any further.
Being in love is often described as being ‘on cloud nine’ – literally, a type of thunder cloud indicating an imminent storm. Pure white, it stacks up higher and higher into the atmosphere. Its puff-balls heavy with moisture and loaded with electricity. Being in love is going to be a little volatile too. Yet the billowing cumulo nimbus cannot remain volatile forever. And like the storm that moves away across the sea, the calm returns and you’ll see cloud nine for what it is, just something that changes and moves. This week, I want you to say ‘no’ to illusions and ‘yes’ to your growing self-awareness as the storm clouds move away.
As we dawdle along the footpath or rush headlong down a street there are signs up everywhere to stop or delay us. You know, ‘no entry’, ‘road ahead closed’, ‘keep off the grass’. And dutifuly most of us obey these anonymous messages because if we didn’t we would be considered anarchists or barmy. Equally, we put up signs and barriers in our mind. ‘I can’t do that, what would people think of me! ‘ No I can’t go down that road, because it might not lead me to where I want to go. Explore a new avenue? You must be joking, that’s risky.’ So what I’m getting at this week, is that you have options and choices to make. But you must also close off the judgemental side of your nature and stop telling yourself what you can’t do in love. Instead tell yourself what you can do for it.
If attached, time to sort out your differences or aim for similar goals. You’re in the mood to enjoy life, love and it’s physical expression to the fullest. This week, the planets make you bolder and more sexually expressive than ever before. If attached, your lover had best make the most of your surging libido, if single, let the fireworks begin. The true romantic in you is finally out, and after months of uncertainty, there’s a sparkle in your eye and a sway to your step.
You’ve proved you’re stable, determined and ready to take the plunge, but are you sure? Ask yourself: does this feel right? Does your partner have enough oomph and honesty, strength of character and a purpose? Will they be your equal, not try to boss you around nor be a wimp? Single, or attached, now’s the chance to express your true needs and desires, not only to your partner but to yourself too. But don’t forget that thing called personal freedom. You’re neither a possession nor a chained prisoner, so make it clear you want to play the game of love for all it’s worth.
You were convinced things were going to get better when they’ve in fact only turned out to be more complicated or going nowhere fast. Yet, big, fulfilling, mind-blowing romance or commitment won’t happen overnight. So this week is one for preparation, modification and attention. Your catchphrase could be “you often meet your destiny on the very road you take to avoid it.” How many times have you been down that road trying to avoid emotional excess or escape that commitment, only to find yourself doing, or facing, exactly that? Face it now, with honesty.
Once you’re deeply involved with someone it’s very hard to extract yourself. Mostly because it’s safer to stick with what you know, and follow the plan that is clearly described in the ‘three steps to heaven’ routine. You know, first we fall in love, then we get married, then we get bored. But seriously, stability and permanence means more to you than ever before. Yet you’re elusive, confusing and difficult to understand. Your moods are impossible, your feelings swing like a pendulum, and yet you’re about to change all that. Soon you will be as as strong for someone else as well as for yourself.
You’re feeling quite feisty and alarmingly brazen. If single you’re in the mood to chase up new blood in town. And if attached, however committed someone else is to you, or you to they, there is a piece of the relationship jigsaw puzzle which simply doesn’t fit. But this week, stop trying to control every minute of your partner’s day and you’ll begin to understand that the puzzle of love will never be complete. And that, in itself, is a dynamic joy to discover.
You’re actually beginning to wonder if the romantic dreams of childhood, are beginning to seem a long, long, way away. And it’s heardly surprising you’re feeling sad or grumpy. But the feelings will go, and at last you awaken to a different day. Birds tweet, the sun shines, and you know that you can only be who you are. Just a self-assured earth sign, who knows that nature and simplicity are as nourishing to you as nectar to the gods. So breathe in the air of some distant mountains, go for a holiday with only one bag or one friend. Be a little carefree, because sometimes we have to run off with the fairies to truly know ourselves.
So you’ve been to hell and back, and the lesser of two evils seems to be yourself? We all have weeks like that. Even the most logical of us can get strung up in the web of self-deceit. So listen to your imagination, trust your intuition about where you go from here in your love life, give it time to grow and develop within like the essence of an acorn seed. I have a feeling love is going to be more than a big adventure in the months to come. So hold your breath in anticipation of what can be and will be, not what others assume it to be.
Now, we all want to leave the past behind, we want to be free of doubts and worries and look forward to a beautiful future. But the problem is, it’s not as easy as it sounds. We are bound by our neediness and our fears. We are trapped by insecurity and often a hefty dose of guilt. We are simply human and ‘starting anew’ can be as elusive and as rare as a monarch butterfly. But this is your chance to move on, to work towards improving your love life, and to become more aware of your own desires and needs, rather than feel obliged to put others first. But dare you?